“It's impossible to be spiritually mature, while remaining emotionally immature.” –Peter Scazzero

 1. Illumination is Necessary

Emotional pain is a reality of life. More often than not we don’t realize the extent of our hurt so we don’t pursue healing. The problem is not that we lack wisdom but rather that we lack objectivity. As a result, we go through life covering our pain using various methods:

  • Party life in college to cover up feeling lonely
  • Success in business to cover up low self esteem
  • Keeping the house and children in order to cover up a distant relationship with a spouse
  • Ultra-involved in ministry and/or church success to cover up for not ‘feeling’ the unconditional love of God. 

Why do so many people lack objectivity? Why can’t we see the reality for what it is? 

Here are some possible answers: 



With love in Christ,

Valy Vaduva

Spiritual Mentor / Life Coach

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​God is LOVE


“... the goal of our instruction is love ...” (1 Tim. 1:5).

Three (3) ASPECTS of agape love.  
1. Agape love is the “TEST” of belonging to God's family:

We should read carefully 1 John 3:10: “By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor the one who does not love his brother.” Think about it? Whomever does not love his brother is not part of God’s family! I think this should be written in red (and underlined) in our personal journals. Where do we stand on this? 

2. Agape love is the “TEST” of having the zoe life of God in us:
I would like to challenge all of you to “gird up the loins of your mind” and try to capture the spiritual depth with which the apostle writes about the subject of love in 1 John 3:14, “We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love abides in death.” This should give us chills! “He who does not love abides in death.” The word “abides” – seems to indicate affiliation with death. This should cause us to pause and make us think. The spiritual transformation caused by the agape love in us is found in 1 John 4:12, “No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us.” God – the only uncreated Being is the giver of life. If He gives us life we have it, if He does not give us zoe life then we don’t have it. The very proof that we possess zoe life is a natural agape love for one another. It is as simple as that. Or is it still not simple for many of us? I would be curious to hear your opinion.

3. Agape love is the “TEST” of the knowledge of God:
I hope you remember the essay I wrote some time ago about the essence of the eternal life. I would like to briefly mention a few things from that essay. Based on John 17:3, “This is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.” We can affirm that the essence of eternal life is the experiential knowledge of God and His Son – Jesus Christ by the revelation of the Holy Spirit. This is exactly what the apostle of love emphasizes in 1 John 4:8, “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” In other words, only agape love manifested  in us is the evidence that we really know God. Nothing else can be the proof for this; no religion, no philosophy, only agape love.

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I hope and pray that we will never forget that spiritual growth is not a seminar or a good sermon, but it is the manifestation of the very nature of God – love, and the display of Christ’s image in each of us. Ultimately, it is up to us to walk on this more excellent way of agape love. As Paul concludes his thoughts on spiritual gifts in chapter 12, “But earnestly desire the greater gifts. And I show you a still more excellent way” (1 Corinthians 12:31). It is interesting that, in chapter 13, after pouring his thoughts on agape love, in chapter 14, Paul continues, “Pursue love . . .” (1 Corinthians 14:1a). There is no other more worthy goal than this. What are you pursuing? So help us God in Christ through the Holy Spirit to pursue love and only love. Amen! 

With love in Christ's service,
Valy Vaduva
Spiritual Mentor / Life Coach

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[1] The Greek word mathetes (translated disciple) is found more than 250 times in the New. According to Greek Bible scholar Spiros Zodhiates, editor of the Hebrew-Greek Key Word Study Bible, mathetes “means more than mere pupil or learner. It means an adherer who accepts the instruction given to him and makes it his rule of conduct.” In other words a New Testament type disciple is one who learns by putting what he or she learns into experience.

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